Bexley Women's Aid P.O. Box 25 Bexleyheath Kent DA7 4BS helpline@bexleywomensaid.org.uk 0208 301 1536

Am I in an Abusive Relationship?

Everyone has arguments, and everyone disagrees with their partners, family members and others close to them from time to time. And we all do things at times that we regret, and which cause unhappiness to those we care about. But if this begins to form a consistent pattern, then it is an indication of domestic violence and abuse.

The answers the following questions from Women’s Aid’s Survivor Handbook to help you:

Has your partner tried to keep you from seeing your friends or family?

Yes No

Has your partner prevented you or made it hard for you to continue or start studying, or from going to work?

Yes   No

Does your partner constantly check up on you or follow you?

Yes   No

Does your partner unjustly accuse you of flirting or of having affairs with others?

Yes   No

Does your partner constantly belittle or humiliate you, or regularly criticise or insult you?

Yes   No

Are you ever afraid of your partner?

Yes   No

Have you ever changed your behaviour because you are afraid of what your partner might do or say to you?

Yes   No

Has your partner ever destroyed any of your possessions deliberately?

Yes   No

Has your partner ever hurt or threatened you or your children?

Yes   No

Has your partner ever kept you short of money so you are unable to buy food and other necessary items for yourself and your children or made you take out loans?

Yes   No

Has your partner ever forced you to do something that you really did not want to do?

Yes   No

Has your partner ever tried to prevent you from taking necessary medication, or seeking medical help when you felt you needed it?

Yes   No

Has your partner ever tried to control you by telling you that you could be deported because of your immigration status?

Yes   No

Has your partner ever threatened to take your children away, or said he would refuse to let you take them with you, or even to see them, if you left him?

Yes   No

Has your partner ever forced or harassed you to have sex with him or with other people? Has he made you participate in sexual activities that you were uncomfortable with?

Yes   No

Has your partner ever tried to prevent your leaving the house?

Yes   No

Does your partner blame his use of alcohol or drugs, mental health condition or family history for his behaviour?

Yes   No

Does your partner control your use of alcohol or drugs (for example, by forcing your intake or by withholding substances)?

Yes   No

 

If you answered yes to one or more of the above questions, this indicates that you may be experiencing domestic abuse.

You may want to call our Helpline on 0208 301 1536 (9.30am – 3.00pm, Monday to Friday).

Or contact the National Domestic Violence Helpline to discuss this further in confidence.

 

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